Well, here is a new one for you! Let me be the first to tell you that there is ABSOLUTELY a place for therapy in marriage. There are some marriages that need the skills of a licensed counseling practitioner to help save a marriage from falling apart. However, sometimes all a marriage needs is someone to help the two people in a marriage negotiate or re-negotiate the ever changing waters of this life long journey, and my friends...it is a journey. Sometimes the river flows smoothly as you both are going down this water together. Sometimes the waters become rough and rocky and unexpected currents and tides take you both in a direction that is bumpy and uncomfortable.
When you have two separate people living their lives...growing at different speeds, changing what is important to them, having two different communication styles, two separate gender processing skills, two totally separate biological time-clocks, two different perspectives on how to raise children, two very different lists of personal and emotional needs...get where I am going with this?
In Marriage Coaching, I will partner with BOTH of you in a very safe and confidential environment where we will spend a majority of the time moving you FORWARD! Therapy (which Coaching is NOT) looks at the past to help you resolve your marital issues. Coaching, on the other hand, looks to what is and what will be.
You will work hard to move forward at every session to re-negotiate what is not working and to celebrate what is in a non-threatening non-adversarial environment where the focus will be on moving forward, not emoting and reliving the past. We will take time to acknowledge the challenges you face and quickly shift our focus to writing a new chapter in your marriage.
One note to couples who are considering Marriage Coaching: I assure you that I understand that going to “see someone” about your marriage or any issue is a choice that can be difficult and very uncomfortable for some. I will promise you this; before you both become my client, we will meet and THEN decide whether or not to proceed. At my coaching practice, you both are in the drivers seat. I simply provide perspective, information and structure to your action plan for a better marriage. Coaching is not for everyone, but it might be just what you need to live your best possible lives together.